As we approach Halloween I see more and more decorations out that celebrate the macabre. A house down the street from us has skeletons climbing over the house, and it's lit up at night with eerie purple lights. I smiled when I saw it... thought, "Cute." Cute? Really? How did symbols of death and mortality… Continue reading Fear
I have been thinking a lot about values lately. There are things that we assume are universal that are actually just a part of our value system. It is very disruptive when we run into people that don't hold the same values we do. The thing is, we often don't recognize that something is a… Continue reading Values
How do you feel about change? What is your first response when something changes? Things are changing all around us in the midst of this pandemic. Things we thought would always be the same are suddenly different. Our home has had quite a few changes in the last little while. Those changes have ranged from… Continue reading Change
How much do you do to support another person? When does helping become enabling or even hurting? How do you know when you've reached the line? These are all questions we have been asking ourselves the last little while. As Foster Parents we have been thrown into a world that is new to us. The… Continue reading How much?
What do you do when you feel cranky? Do you recognize it quickly or are you oblivious until you lose your cool? I've heard a lot about people being cranky the last few days. Covid-19 fatigue is one of the things that comes up. I've felt it, although I have no specific reason I can… Continue reading Cranky
What do you need today? Not "What do you want?", we all have a lot of those... I want the sun to shine, I want the kids to get up on time, I want someone to make supper... but what do you actually need? We all have basic needs for food, shelter, clothing and purpose.… Continue reading See a need. Fill a need.
If you had told us last year that masks would be a normal part of life this fall we would have found it inconceivable that such a drastic change could take place. Yet here we are. Masks used to be something you only saw on medical professionals or contractors doing dirty work. When I traveled… Continue reading Masks
I love to travel! I love the adventure of seeing a new place, exploring what makes it different, learning about it's history and experiencing it's sights, sounds and tastes. I love sharing it with other people. Travel has always been good for me... even on the trips where there were challenges and misadventures. When we… Continue reading Travel
Last week I talked about how we all seek meaningful connections. This led me to thinking about what we need to be able to form those connections. The first thing that comes to my mind is trust. In order for me to have a healthy relationship with someone I need to trust them... but what… Continue reading Trust
What do you fill your day with? It seems in the summer at our house there is a lot of empty time. I wrestle with letting kids sleep until noon but acknowledge that if I make them get up there isn't really anything for them to do. All they want to do is watch TV… Continue reading Time
We are a white family raising two black foster children in an increasingly complex climate of racism. I have been trying to understand the issues and sort through the media hype for the facts. People have been asking me how we are talking about it with our two foster kids. The short answer is... we… Continue reading Black Lives Matter
Heave Gag Hork Whimper Heave "Just breathe" Pant, pant Heave Yup, this is what I was hearing as I stood out of sight listening. What hideous thing was happening. What grotesque task was being undertaken. What cruelty had we imposed on this poor girl? Well, let's add some back story. We have a dog and… Continue reading Over reaction
My kids use the word Meh to describe that blah feeling... It's kind of how today feels You know those days... you just feel irritated by the smallest things... But you don't have any feelings about most things... a comic from one of my favourites Nathan Pyle It is perfectly summed up by Nathan Pyle… Continue reading Meh
It seems this season there have been a lot of things that have caused people disappointment and stress. missed graduationscancelled holidaysre-imagined wedding planslonely hospital tripsmodified birth planslay-offsunexpected job terminationsdisrupted placementsinterrupted connections All these things have resulted in grieving and pain for many. I have listened to the stories and shared in the sorrow and pain… Continue reading Empathy
I don't know how you feel about Math but I used to like it! I used to be quite good at it. Math makes sense to me! My brain works with numbers. I like the simplicity of knowing that if you put the numbers in the right place in the equation or formula and follow… Continue reading Learning