Fostering · Parenting · Uncategorized

The Struggle

The struggle to figure out how to live life is real. For teenagers it is a complicated world of mixed messages and competing competencies.

“Do I impress my friends, or obey my parents?”

“Do I want good grades or an easy time at school?”

“Do I want to save for a car or enjoy food at the cafeteria?”

The choices never stop!

Some of you will look at the options and think you know the “obvious” choice.

For a normal teenager the right choice often isn’t quite so obvious.

For a teenager with a neurodivergent brain… well don’t get me started!

That is how we find ourselves being asked to transfer two dollars into their bank account so they can pay for their phone plan. They found two loonies in their room but they can’t deposit the coins in their account… they need us to make it happen.

It’s only $15.75 for the phone plan… there was over $200 in that account only two months ago. There has been weekly deposits ever since…

They know their phone plan is a top priority… but so are fries from the cafeteria on Friday… they just smell so good!

It is easy to criticize the choices, but they aren’t alone in the struggle.

I love the letter to the Romans in the Bible. There are so many honest wrestles with being human. Romans chapter seven is one of them.

I want to do what is good, but I don’t.

I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway.

Romans 7:19 NLT

The modern day teenagers in my house are living straight out of the bible! This rings so true it almost hurts.

But you don’t have to be a teenager to recognize yourself in those verses!

What do you know you ought to do…the budget, the meal plan, the walk around the block,… but you sit and browse through Amazon, order on Skip the Dishes, or park in front of the TV again.

I cannot judge the teenager for something I haven’t mastered myself.

So… here’s to trying to do the right thing, even when the wrong one is calling your name.

In the midst of the mess


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