Sometimes people just puzzle me! I wish I could say that I always understand why people say and do the things they do, but I can’t! I have been a student of human nature for most of my life. I love to watch people and learn about what makes them tick. I would even dare to say I have fairly good intuition about what is going on for people. But sometimes people just don’t make sense. They say and do things that just don’t slide neatly into any of the categories you have that explain behaviours.
Diving into being a Foster Parent has opened a whole new world of puzzlement! There are times I truly just shake my head and give up on coming up with any rational explanation for the words or actions I have just heard. This means I have to come up with new ways to respond to these things because my normal repertoire of responses just don’t have something that fits the bill!
Building a life with these kids has been something like building a jigsaw puzzle! You start with a bunch of apparently random pieces that don’t make any sense and start trying to make connections. Slowly things start to fit together and a picture of what could be starts to appear. Then after much time, perseverance and patience it all comes together and you see a beautiful picture. The thing is, the designer of the jigsaw puzzle knew what the picture was all along!
There have been times in our journey of Foster Parenting I have wanted to see the big picture. I am tired of looking at the little pieces that don’t make sense and trying over and over again to find the connections. Foster parenting doesn’t come with a box lid to refer to for direction. But I do believe there is a Designer who sees the big picture even when I cannot. I am thankful that God sees the hearts of all of us and knows the plan. Sometimes I just need to be reminded of that.
Ultimately it is not up to me to figure it all out. My job is to love unconditionally, and believe that love makes a difference in the world.
So whether you have a significant other to celebrate this Valentine’s day with or not, I hope that you choose to love your friends and family and yourself this Valentine’s day! We shouldn’t need a special day to show our appreciation for others, but we seem to do better with the yearly reminder. So set aside all the things that keep you from showing your love and affection for the people in your life and let them know they are loved today!! It’s a really important piece of the puzzle that helps people make sense of the world they live in!
In the midst of the mess